Black Coffee slammed for Enhle Mbali ‘ingratitude’ comments during interview
Grammy-winning producer Black Coffee has come under fire for being a narcissist after expressing his disappointment in his former wife Enhle Mbali Mlotshwa’s lack of enthusiasm over a car he purchased her during their marriage.
BLACK COFFEE ON BUYING ENHLE A FANCY CAR
In an interview with Thabo “T-Bose” Mokwele on Kaya FM, the DJ (real name Nkosinathi Maphumulo) explained that during his marriage to the actress, he had bought her a fancy car, hoping she’d love it and show the utmost appreciation, but she didn’t.
“One day I bought my ex a very fancy car and the response wasn’t what I expected. She wasn’t as excited as I expected. And, for me, especially at the time, it was a super fancy car and I expected her to even cry. She was like ‘oh, it’s nice. Thank you,’” he said.
“And it sat with me for a long time, as someone who was not appreciating.”
Asked what he learnt from that, Black Coffee said: “Sometimes we are ahead. There are things we wish for people, there are things they wish for themselves. And we make the mistake of imposing our wishes on them.”
THE DJ ON HIS IDEA OF MARRIAGE
Before this point, Black Coffee had explained that he had modelled marriage his own way and without discussing it or involving his partner.
“Because of my upbringing and my parents failing in marriage, and me not being raised by both of them, I created my own world where I’m like ‘you know when I get a chance to do this thing, I’m going to do it this way’.
“[I did that] so much that you want to lead in everything. You wanna cover everything. You want to be the driver of this thing, so much that you forget that there’s someone next to you who holds the map… you’re a driver, there’s a navigator, and both of you are important.
“So, every time I would make a move that was big for us, and it wasn’t received like that [with appreciation] a part of me was dying. Because I was like”‘trust me, I know how this thing is going to work. Trust ME. Let me take this thing forward’.”
Black Coffee defended by Shadaya Knight
Zimbabwean self-proclaimed male alpha who is used to trolling women and advocating for men’s masculinity has come to DJ Black Coffee’s defence saying that Enhle Mbali should have expressed gratitude than feel entitled to the gift as it showed ingratitude. Below is his comment on the matter.
Black Coffee said he once bought an expensive gift (a car to be specific) for his ex wife Enhle Mbali and she simply reacted with an “ok”. He expected more for his gesture, in his words he wanted her to even cry. And somehow he is being criticized for saying that, being termed narcissistic What’s narcissistic about buying someone a gift, an expensive one for that matter and expecting gratitude for your gesture? Gratitude is a trait that any woman who wants to be in a man’s life should have. No matter how small or big it is, you have done for her, it should be accompanied by an enthusiastic “thank you” clapping her hands on her knees It shows appreciation of your efforts. The problem with modern women is they feel entitled to all these things. In their heads, men owe them the princess treatment. Don’t let these women shame you for expecting gratitude for your efforts, it’s your money that you spent on her, she should be grateful When you give a woman money or buy her a gift, you have just given her a portion of your life – that’s your blood, sweat and time you’ve given her. Don’t tolerate ingratitude, let her go Learn OR perish!!!
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The ex-couple has been at loggerheads since reports about their split in 2019. Allegations of infidelity and abuse were at the core of their separation as the DJ and fathered two children with other women while the couple was married.
In March 2021, Enhle applied for a protection order against her ex, accusing the DJ of abusing her at her birthday party in their matrimonial home.
The two ex-lovers have also taken to social media to take jabs at each other, including the time when the We Dance Again DJ went off at his ex-wife about paying R65 000 maintenance and giving her a car after their split.
Following Black Coffee’s interview on Kaya FM, especially the part about the fancy car, X users claimed he thought he could “bribe” Enhle after cheating on her.
Black Coffee disappointed by a less enthusiastic reaction from someone he bought a gift screams toxicity, narcistic, abusive & arrogance. All because people know his highly publicized marriage breakdown. Is this enough to disregard what he felt? So no human would feel that way? https://t.co/pphC6Vg8hO
— Lusi Tan (@TanLusi22992) March 3, 2024
He had babies on her and expected a car to fix his betrayal?? 😂😂😂 https://t.co/vv0tS1Aobp
— ✨Mrs M✨ (@Feather_Ruffler) March 2, 2024
.I don't know, man. It just sounds like someone thinking throwing money at problems that don't require money will make those problems go away https://t.co/LOZeE5LYH3
— Mohloboloko (@MorolongZA) March 2, 2024
